Sunday, April 10th, 2011
If you noticed my blog post title, it comes from a song that won an Oscar called “It’s hard out there for a pimp”. But I feel like it’s really hard to be a romantic in America sometimes because you don’t see a lot of happy couples here. Everywhere I look, in the news, on the web, in music, they’re talking about break-ups and people cheating on each other. It’s disheartening.
I’m old enough to know that life is not going to be like in a Disney movie but I don’t understand why American romantic comedies encourage people to cheat on each other. Did you guys notice that too? There’s this idea that the person you’re with is not good enough and that the grass is always greener on the other side is being promoted heavily in movies. That’s why I stop watching romantic comedies/dramas because I don’t find infidelity funny. I don’t find it funny that people say “I’ll love you forever” or “I’m always yours” so easily and then broke their promises. I don’t find it funny when people disrespect their partners by checking out other people or flirting with other people. I find it sad when people give up on each other without trying to work things out. I hate it when people try to force their agendas on their partners without listening or understanding.
When I watch a typical American Romantic comedy, there is a lot of sex, alcohol, swearing, cheating, breaking up, girls who dress provocatively so that guys have an excuse to cheat on their partners because you know, who can resist hot girls?! You will see guys who are shown as being married or in a relationship hit on other women and it is seen as being normal and common. Why is that? Why so much vulgar language? Why so much violence and sex?
You hardly see happily married couples in movies. The only movie I’ve seen so far last year that celebrates true love was “UP” and it’s a Disney movie! We hardly hear about couples who have successful relationships or doing incredible things for each other. However, we see divorces, people having affairs and teen pregrenancies on daily basis. It scares me sometimes how people just can’t commit to one person for more than a few years or even less in most cases. I’m not saying commitment should be a choice for everyone but I wish I see more happy couples being highlighted in the media.
I love being a romantic and I will always be one forever. I would send hand-written love letters, daily emails with cute photos that I found, mixed CD with love songs, spending hours at Hallmark finding the perfect card, etc for my last boyfriend but they weren’t appreciated very much.
For me, when I love someone, I never think about anyone else except him and I don’t care who else is out there. I don’t care how smart, handsome, rich or successful they are. And the only reason I will ever marry someone is for love and I’ll be committed both emotionally and physically for life. That’s the definition of love for me.
Do you think I’m being unrealistic in my search for love? What do you think about today’s romantic comedies in general? Are they depressing to you as they are to me?
I would love to hear your thoughts! xxooxxoxoo
